You're So Mature.... Not.
Let me start by saying that all my posts are inspired by something. It can be a shirt I saw at Target or a latte I drank in Brooklyn- The ideas come from somewhere. This idea came from a conversation with one of my best friends while out to dinner one night. A few of us were out and discussing our ages and what we're doing for our birthdays this year. This year is a big one. 3 out of 4 of my friends are turning the big 35. So while I was inviting everyone to my bathtub to cry with me on MY 35th birthday, my friend made a comment. Before I tell you this comment, I want you to understand that even though I have extremely thick skin, I'm also sensitive (I know, it's a terrible combination) so when the comment was said to me.... I freaked. My friend (who shall remain nameless for her protection) said "wow, you're the oldest but you're so not mature". Keep in mind, I'm the oldest by a few months. My response you ask? I said "what the f*ck does that mean"? For those of you who know me in real life, you can only imagine the face I made. She retracted her comment immediately and I said "well, what makes me not mature? Is it because I don't have kids? Is it because I don't own a house?" - my friend explained to me that she was just joking and she didn't mean it "like that." It got me thinking..... What exactly makes someone "mature?" Is it the small human we bring into this world? Is it spending your savings on a house? Is it wearing slacks to work? Seriously. What makes someone mature?
I have never defined myself by other's accomplishments because everyone works at their own pace. If I worked at someone else's pace, would that make me happy? Hell to the no. Obviously, we're humans. We compare and contrast our lives with others all the time and that's fine. The thing that isn't fine is when you start to question YOUR life based on other people's accomplishments or by what society says your life should look like. Society can lead you to think that you need to be functioning on the SAME level as everyone else. You know, things like getting married, having kids, finding your career choice right out of college. Life 101 basically. I don't want those things right at this moment and no one should make you feel as if you're less than because your clock isn't on their time. Maybe my vision board of my life is different than yours. I work really hard for the things I have in my life. Every element of my life is the way it is because I've grown and MATURED as me. By working at my own pace I have achieved some amazing things, but I have also made mistakes that made me who I am today. I've lost friendships that I thought would last a life time, went back to school, I'm able to eat every night and I have tons of shoes that I love deeply. Just kidding...... maybe.
Here's the thing, society leads you to believe that you have to go through a very specific cycle to be or feel as if we've accomplished things in our lives. Nothing is wrong with going to school, getting a job, getting married, having kids and buying that house; If that's what YOUR goals are. But not everyone thinks that way and it's ok to be a rebel or a free thinker. I've spent my whole life not fitting in and breaking the mold of normality. If my life consists of coffee shop dates, road trips with my friends and taking photos on train tracks then I love that for me right now. Everything else will come in time. Maturity shouldn't be defined by the things you've attained, the color of your hair or your age. Maturity comes to us through our individual life experiences and the balance of our responsibilities in our lives. So go out there and be mature as F*#&K!